You know
you can accomplish almost anything you put your mind to, but you're not
sure what you should be accomplishing. If that's the case, Barbara
Sher's book, I Could Do Anything if I Only Knew What It Was, can help
you get from here to there.
The book
helps you focus on what you really want to be in your life. It also
helps you create the right direction for yourself. Learn how to
reconnect with long-lost goals, overcome negativity and create your own
luck -- instead of just wishing for it.
I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was: How to
Discover What You Really Want and How to Get It,
by Barbara Sher
Published by Bantam Doubleday Dell
1995
Before
you can begin to build a plan, Sher says you must first ask yourself,
"What am I supposed to be doing with my life?" In order to become more
specific about what you really want, you must first ask specific
questions about what you've been "expected" to do with your life.
What has
your family expected you to do? Why? How have those messages altered
the course of your life? Were you expected to grow up and become a
lawyer or a doctor, or did you receive more subtle messages?
Through
two exercises, Sher leads the reader to break through the myths of what
our families wanted us to be. She explains why their dreams are
impossible for us to fulfill. And she points out that what we want to
become is a real possibility.
In the
following chapters, Sher reveals that the secret to "getting lucky" in
our lives is to engage in action. She also teaches us how to identify
and break through the resistance that is holding us back from achieving
what we want.
Sher says
that we tend to avoid action if we're not sure what we want. But
through action, we learn what our true resistance is to knowing what we
want. Then we can break through these barriers. Sher shows readers how
to target their resistance issues, and then melt them.
Readers
are prompted to define what the world believes is "meaningful work,"
what our personal job from heaven would be, and how to use specific
techniques to help uncover and meet our resistance head-on.
Are you
cautious? Do you avoid adventure because the outcome is not a sure
thing? Or, are you really afraid of success? Or maybe you have so many
things you want to do that you can't settle for just one slice of all
that's available to you.
If you
find yourself in any of these predicaments, Barbara Sher's book offers
a handy set of soul-searching exercises to help you conquer these
personal gremlins. Find out if you're a "scanner" or a "diver" and how
to productively deal with those traits.
If you're
on the wrong track and moving at a breakneck speed, you'll learn how to
get in touch with your real feelings and how to manage them. Sher also
helps readers effectively cure boredom as well as burnout.
She gives
us a handful of scenarios to help us work through issues, such as
imagining our own business. She also shows how to reacquaint yourself
with an old dream locked deep inside that you may have forgotten.
Whether
you're struggling with disabled desire or battling a desire that flies
in the face of what your family or friends believe is right, Sher's
book provides a common sense, thoughtful guide for teaching readers how
to recognize and overcome these difficulties.
If you
long to live a life you love, but you need help defining it, you'll
find I Could Do Anything if I Only Knew What It Was to be an invaluable
life tool, as well as a must-have addition to your bookshelf.